an opportunity to Love

Yesterday  good friends dropped by. We were having a good meal, when Dan’s voice and manners changed, he was describing with an intense and loud voice how he and a friend had fired up two stone-cutters which made intense and unpleasant voice, and scared some cats.

Something in me clicked, and I laughed with him:  I had slipped into the old story  – into identifying with the old memory of joining  dark overpowering forces coming at me. It feels much safer for my ego to join with darkness and see it as “friends” than enemies: now we are on the same side –

I know also that Dan had no perception of his shift  from Dr Jekyll to mr Hyde.

It blew away, and Dan was his useful funny and pleasant self again. But I had just been presented with what the Course names classrooms: an opportunity to choose love instead of fear – a chance to allow the Miracle.

I had a dark nightmare: I was in a big room with a lot of therapists and artists. There was supposed to be silence, but I was holding an electric object with a plug, and it made a dreadful noise – even though It was unplugged from the electric socket. A latex glove was attached to the point of the stick: now it started to pulse, like it was filled with  a breathing organism of its own. It exploded – and inside was blocks of wood! I heard a mean laugh, and got the pun: “You’re a block-head!”

When I woke up, the sensation of agony and being overpowered was immense. I knew I was in a memory and identification with agony, and I asked for help: I was immediately shown that by my joining Dan yesterday in laughing, I had also said yes to the demonic: I had put my belief in it and made it real for me. “Blue, what do I do with it?” I asked, and was told to get up and go into my cosy living room and open the Course at random. (The text in blue is what took me out of the spell from the nightmare.)

Chapter 16.
I. True Empathy

T-16.I.1. To empathize does not mean to join in suffering, for that is what you must refuse to understand. 2 That is the ego’s interpretation of empathy, and is always used to form a special relationship in which the suffering is shared. 3 The capacity to empathize is very useful to the Holy Spirit, provided you let Him use it in His way. 4 His way is very different. 5 He does not understand suffering, and would have you teach it is not understandable. 6 When He relates through you, He does not relate through your ego to another ego. 7 He does not join in pain, understanding that healing pain is not accomplished by delusional attempts to enter into it, and lighten it by sharing the delusion.

T-16.I.2. The clearest proof that empathy as the ego uses it is destructive lies in the fact that it is applied only to certain types of problems and in certain people. 2 These it selects out, and joins with. 3 And it never joins except to strengthen itself. 4 Having identified with what it thinks it understands, the ego sees itself and would increase itself by sharing what is like itself. 5 Make no mistake about this maneuver; the ego always empathizes to weaken, and to weaken is always to attack. 6 You do not know what empathizing means. 7 Yet of this you may be sure; if you will merely sit quietly by and let the Holy Spirit relate through you, you will empathize with strength, and will gain in strength and not in weakness.

I had empathized with fear, which is a lie and weakened me.

T-16.I.3. Your part is only to remember this; you do not want anything you value to come of a relationship. 2 You choose neither to hurt it nor to heal it in your own way. 3 You do not know what healing is. 4 All you have learned of empathy is from the past. 5 And there is nothing from the past that you would share, for there is nothing from the past that you would keep. 6 Do not use empathy to make the past real, and so perpetuate it. 7 Step gently aside, and let healing be done for you. 8 Keep but one thought in mind and do not lose sight of it, however tempted you may be to judge any situation, and to determine your response by judging it. 9 Focus your mind only on this:

10 I am not alone, and I would not intrude the past upon my Guest.
11 I have invited Him, and He is here.
12 I need do nothing except not to interfere

T-16.I.4. True empathy is of Him Who knows what it is. 2 You will learn His interpretation of it if you let Him use your capacity for strength, and not for weakness. 3 He will not desert you, but be sure that you desert not Him. 4 Humility is strength in this sense only; that to recognize and accept the fact that you do not know is to recognize and accept the fact that He does know. 5 You are not sure that He will do His part, because you have never yet done yours completely. 6 You cannot know how to respond to what you do not understand. 7 Be tempted not in this, and yield not to the ego’s triumphant use of empathy for its glory.

T-16.I.6. The meaning of love is lost in any relationship that looks to weakness, and hopes to find love there. 2 The power of love, which is its meaning, lies in the strength of God that hovers over it and blesses it silently by enveloping it in healing wings. 3 Let this be, and do not try to substitute your “miracle” for this.

Classroom lesson – sweet and short:

Step back, and allow me to show you the truth beyond your illusion


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